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February 2019

I have decided not to spend much time outside until the temperature is higher than the age for retirement. Sweets thinks my battle with cold is due to my medications.

I think I need to eat more ice cream. I’m not sure I stand with the majority in this part of our world.

There are some folks in my town that love the snow and cold air. Just after Christmas I had my tires changed, and a guy dressed only in a short-sleeved shirt, shorts, and sandals walked in from outdoors and a 15 mph wind, smiling! On the way to the garage, I passed a white-haired woman running on the snow- covered road, singing. She wore light pants, vest, and snow sneakers. Some people in town will tell you to move and where to go, if you moan about the cold.

This year winter ignored the calendar and came early, although not as early as the year it snowed on Halloween, when all the kids dressed as snow people. Since my surgery I cannot touch the snow blower, so I sit on the couch with a blanket over my head in a pool of guilt. During the first snowstorm Sweets assured me she needed the exercise. After the third storm when the power went out, and avalanches of snow crashed down on the driveway from the roof minutes after Fantastic Fred, our snow blower man, left for the day, she picked up her prayer shawl, kicked my blanket, slammed the door to the bedroom, and didn’t come out until morning. I remained on the couch until the first rays of sunlight filtered through windows almost blocked by snow mounds. Fred came, so we were able to use our front door. We put out a distress call to a kind younger man who liked to shovel snow paths.

Some years winters are more difficult, depending on the ice storms and power failures. One year during an ice storm that left us without power for a week, we huddled in front of the wood stove rewriting our wills to benefit those who brought us hot food and blankets. We thought of divorce but couldn’t figure how to tell the grandchildren. Like many of you, we made it though those frost-filled days, weakened, but resolved to hang in till spring, which I believe came in May that year.

In these cold winter days, we might discover unread books, or perhaps this is the time to finish knitting the sweater started last year, while your husband finally finishes the repairs in the bathroom. The long cold days can give us special moments when neighbors became friends during those times spent drinking something warm, while we walked through pages of our memories. Some moments brought smiles, others tears when we spoke about losing another old friend.

This year if you are brave enough, call someone one bone-cold day and take time to catch up on your lives. Feel the warmth when you make a small space that reaches out into this cold winter world.

Until the next step on the journey,

Codger Tom, Sweet Nancy Editor/Censor


January 2019

Recently I took an involuntary tour of area hospitals, beginning with my hometown of New London, moving to the campus of Hotel Hitchcock in Lebanon, and then transferring to rehab at Alice Peck Day Hospital down the road in Lebanon. Finally I came to rest in the care of Sweet Nancy, retired nurse. So I have been kicked out of three of our finest health care facilities in a short span of time. I had what is known as a “cabbage with a patch,” a triple bypass with a heart valve replacement.

Things have changed since I worked in a NJ hospital decades ago. When did nurses give up white uniforms? Today some have beards and wear camouflage scrubs with red shoes. When did they put cartoon circles with a scale of one to ten on the wall? This is a pain scale, to which everyone referred each time he or she walked into my room, including the cleaning crew. Once when asked, I answered I had a 14 and soaring toward madness.

There is hospital time and time in the rest of the world. In the hospital they woke me from a deep sleep at midnight and again at six am, right after a stranger drew six vials of blood for testing. You don’t go into a hospital for a rest! If you request something from a caregiver, he or she will tell you, “I’ll be right back.” This may mean toward the end of their shift.

There are young women with a granddaughter smile from PT who walked innocently into my room to lure me into the hall for the “march of hurt,” sometimes called the Bataan Death March. What felt like two hours later, they returned my sweaty body to my bed and promised to return in the afternoon for more fun.

The above is written with a huge exaggeration. I write humor when I am afraid, when I’m confused, and when I lose hope. It helps me deal with difficult situations. Most of the health care professionals who cared for this cranky old man were more then kind, competent, and went out of their way to make me comfortable. They found time in the middle of the night to calm my night terrors, knowing just the words to say to a man who had a close brush with death.

One thought kept recycling during the endless nights I spent in the hospital: I have been given the one more day that many people long for. How do I want to spend it?

I have already begun. I am going to tell those family members I have taken for granted that I love them. I am going to apologize to anyone whom I may have hurt with sharp words, and also those to whom I have not listened. It’s a start.

I have become aware there are fine giving men in our life. I am not allowed to lift over 8-10 lbs. Therefore all responsibilities have been picked up by Sweets and by men who have taken care of our lawn and leaves, taken and picked up the snow blower, removed snow from our driveway, did repairs and fixups, and sat with me in the hospital while Sweets had other appointments. Thank you sons, Steve and John, neighbor Steve, friends Paul and Steve, and my best friend from Germany. A special thanks goes to Fred who keeps returning to clean our driveway.

Finally to my people for their get-well thoughts, prayers, and phone calls. You’ll never know how grateful we are to have you in our lives. Sweets has taken over my care, and I am amazed at her skill level as well as her endless patience. In my 80 years I have never felt such love. Until the next time.

Codger Tom

Sweet Nancy, editor/censor


Sweet Nancy and I live in a small town on a short street in a state that ranks forty- first of fifty in population size. We have breath-taking autumns but bone chilling long winters. We need each other to huddle for warmth and to watch over our old people, so they don’t fall on ice or walk too close to snow covered metal roofs. I now qualify as a certified old man in need of watching.

Years ago, soon after one of our world class ice storms, I was checking our generator. Walking in the hall in the dark, I flew through the air of an open door to the cellar and kissed the cement ripping out my rotator cuff and fracturing a couple of ribs. It was 3 am when the ambulance took me to the hospital.

The next day our neighbor, Paul Diekmann, an ER nurse at New London Hospital, came over and asked, “Why didn’t you call me?”

“At 3 am?”

“Yes, call me next time. I am across the street. I can get here faster. Call me.”

Under her breath Sweets muttered, “If he does it again, I’m calling the undertaker.”

For the next month Diek blew our driveway clean of snow and regularly checked on our well-being, and helped us when needed. In regular times, Paul always knew just the right carpenter, plumber, or any other craftsman we might need. He showed me how to fix a hole in the driveway, gave us a self-made trap to catch rodents, and sometimes he just fixed the problem himself. He and Sidney gave us produce from their garden, raspberries, blueberries, and the tastiest Kennebunk potatoes ever to cross our lips. Through the years he became our first responder and guardian angel wrapped up in one big bearded guy.

We tried to pay him back, only to hear, “Don’t worry about it.” So instead we invited him and Sidney for dinner, dropped off something we baked or cooked, or when I carved something I made out of wood. We didn’t want to be a burden or overload his life with our problems, yet always he said, “If you need my help, call me. I’ll come as soon as I can.”

Sometime he came without being called. Once I overfilled the oil in my lawn tractor, and black smoke filled our yard and blew into his. He came running. After making sure I was not on fire, he checked the oil. Then he went home and came back with a device he had made, a tube he dropped down the fill shaft. He removed the excess oil and with a grin said, “I bet you won’t do that again.” I have a long list of times when he saved us from disaster. Without pay, a well felt, “thank you so very much,” seemed enough for him. He would always end with “Catch ya latah. Call me if things don’t work out.” I knew he answered calls from others, but I did not know how many until two days after he had helped us once again. He went to bed and did not rise the following day.

Sweet Nancy, a minister, was asked to lead a spiritual service, since she was his friend. Through tears she told stories learned from family and friends. I read a poem written for my friend. Family, friends, and coworkers told of Paul’s kindness, humor, love of family, and how they called on him again and again for help and support. The police, first responders, fire fighters all knew his name and, unknown to me, he had been a part of their service to our community for decades. Now I knew why he had a police scanner as part of his living room décor. At the end of the service, a voice crackled from a police scanner in the front of the church, and called “Last Call for Paul Diekmann,” and thanked him for his years of service.

Thank you, Paul, for being a daily part of our lives, for watching over us all these years, and for being a beloved friend to us and the town we have grown to love. It is because of you and others like you in our small town, only a phone call away, that make life worth living and the winters a little warmer.


Codger and Sweets


To My People:

A newspaper is more than a wrapper for fish or a sponge for Old Blue your retired hunting hound. It is a center where a community decides what’s important and informs their people. It tells you who was born and who has died. It prints a picture of your granddaughter when she scores the winning goal; you buy a dozen to send to your relatives in far flung places and then claim bragging rights to your friends.

As a young man my shoes had wings and my bag was always packed. Each time I set down in a new city or town, I bought a newspaper. The front page featured important issues of the area, antics of the political arena, bits and pieces of national news, and at the top their slogan: “Voted the Best Newspaper (i.e. ONLY) Serving ANYTOWN USA and Surrounding Area.” Inside I found an editorial page, letters to the editor, want ads for jobs, the size and scope of sports, business and religious announcements. Within an hour I was able to hold lively conversations with the customers at the Doughnut Delight and to ask Judy the waitress for her recommendation for fun places to visit.

That was yesterday. Now my travels are closer to home, but when I do go away, I discover people have let their newspapers wither. Those remaining are owned by corporations who know how to make toilet paper, or by a wealthy individual in a far off city, often in another state, who talks funny. People walk the streets with their smartphones unaware of what was lost. Getting the news only from electronics is like sitting at the table when you are hungry, and getting crackers when only a full meal slowly digested will satisfy. That’s why we can’t put the phones down; we’re still hungry! I feel proud when I can cut out a photo of a graduating grandchild so that I could give it a place of honor on the fridge. I have tried social media, but there is too much advertising. I have concluded that using the net to communicate to others is futile. There are too many people in need of a crash course in manners 101 along with a mandatory sentence for anger management.

Sweets and I live in newspaper paradise. I am able to drive three minutes, and for a dollar or two I can choose from two local daily’s, one state wide, four national, and about five weekly newspapers. The clerk, Paul, will smile through his beard and say every time, “Have a great day, enjoy your paper.” If my name is not listed in the obituary, I can ignore bad news, look for the Rotary Club Barbeque, or turn to the Life section where I read an eighty-five year old man climbed to the top of Mt. Tom to celebrate his birthday. Buy a paper, use your phone this week only to send and receive calls. You may discover something wonderful about this place we call home and the people in your community.

Until the next step on the journey

Codger Tom and Sweet Nancy, Editor/Censor